You know that Motherhood is one of the hardest jobs because in order to perform said job one needs to sacrifice the majority of oneself…sleep, sitting down to a meal, having an original thought, holding a thought, privacy while using the restroom; let alone, one's hobbies, dreams or aspirations of greatness. This pausing of oneself does not happen for a few weeks or months even, it is YEARS.
The truth is that many dads don’t end up sacrificing their weekend mountain biking or golfing or Thursday night pick up game with the guys. This is all ok and, in fact, normal and natural. I wouldn't give up being a mother even if it meant not ever having a period ever again. What’s not o.k. is if we, as mothers, completely lose ourselves all together in motherhood…never to find ourselves again. Whether you paused yourself not putting to use your $100,000 higher education, or that leadership position at work, or that book that you've been writing in your head, or the missionary work in Africa to raise your family, it's never too late. It's never too late to do good. It's never too late to get to know yourself all over again.
My children are 7 and 10 now and I’ve just started to think about me again…Who am I? Who is the woman starting to emerge on the other side of those first 10 years of motherhood? Who was I before motherhood? What would I chose to do with a few hours of free time on the weekend? What do I want to be (now that my children are) growing up?
I often find myself checking in on how many years left I have with my children at home. Only 7 1/2 years with my son, 10 1/2 years with my daughter if they go away to school. It saddens me, but also makes me realize that there will be life after I've served my children. I should start thinking about it.
So this is my space, Debbie's Space, to put down my thoughts, share my discoveries and document my journey of self RE-discovery, more intentional living and personal growth. . My hope is to start a conversation with other moms about their journeys and help to inspire us all to UNPAUSE ourselves.